Validation: The missing component of service recovery
As a frequent business traveler, I encounter my share of gaps in service that I need to bring to the attention of the staff of hotels, airlines, and rental car providers. On top of that, my ears are always open to listen-in on what the frontline service providers say to my fellow travelers. In just about all of these conversations, I hear the service provider offering to “fix” the problem or resolve the issue. Most of the time they also throw in an apology, and sometimes it even sounds sincere.
Yet what I very rarely hear being said, which is actually the most important component of service recovery, is a statement that provides validation for the guest’s emotional distress that was caused by the shortcoming. Here are typical examples:
A guest approaches the desk, their facial expression showing they are irritated.
A guest calls down from their room.
As the hotel shuttle van pulls up, an arriving guest looks visibly irritated staring at a watch.
From what I observe, most staff these days are well trained on the need to apologize and to resolve the problem, although there is a tendency to remind guests that they themselves caused the problem.
What’s usually missing is the most important component of service recovery, which is to provide validation for the guest’s emotional distress. For years now, “how to handle guest complaints” training models have mentioned “empathy,” which is represented by the “E” in the acronyms for HEAT and LEARN - two of the most common models. However, I rarely hear statements of empathy actually being used with guests.
Perhaps this is because we have not trained the staff on the reason why we need to show empathy, which is to satisfy the distinctly human need for emotional “validation.” Dog’s don’t need it, cats don’t need it; horses, cows, and reptiles don’t need validation, but us humans? We have a deeply rooted need for emotional validation. Anyone who has ever read articles on interpersonal relationships, attended marriage counseling, or read a book on the parenting of teenagers has heard this term before. In this context, validation is best defined as:
“The affirmation or recognition that a person’s feelings and behaviors are understandable or worthwhile.”
In the hotel business, as in our everyday lives, we can provide validation simply by saying: “I understand how you feel, and I can imagine how frustrating (or disappointing or challenging) that would be.”
When said with sincerity to a hotel guest, most will respond by saying something such as “Well I know it’s not your fault, and you’re being very kind actually, but…”
This validating statement can be said when guests experience a problem caused by the hotel, but it also works really well when they are frustrated by something completely out of our control such as weather, traffic, or flight delays.
After using this statement of empathy, it’s of course still important to continue on to apologize and offer a choice of resolutions to the extent possible.
By providing validation we are able to relate to the guest on a humanistic level and provide for their emotional well being. It is been said that when it comes to our emotional needs, we are all just a 4-year-old child trapped in 24, 40 or 64-year-old body!
Statements of validation can diffuse angry guests, but they can also be used to make an emotional connection with guests during all types of conversations throughout their stay. For example, when guests share that their reason for traveling to your town might be more somber than celebratory.
So when it’s time for your next monthly meeting or pre-shift line-up, add a discussion on the concept of adding statements of validation to those apologies that are already being routinely offered.
By Doug KennedyOriginally Published At:www.hospitality.net www.hotel-online.com www.4hoteliers.com www.hotelnewsresource.comdoug@kennedytrainingnetwork.com
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